Comments on: On Adjusting

By: Kerry

Kerry — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 16:30:36 +0000

Hello! I came across your blog looking for fellow people living in Stamford. I’ll be moving there in less than 2 weeks, and like you know no one! I’m moving there with my bf, he’s buying a condo in the area. So it would def be fun to chat with someone else who has just moved to the area. Believe me, I’m terrified I’ll be sitting around staring at the walls until we get cable hooked up! I haven’t even found a job!

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:56:14 +0000

I have to echo a lot of the other comments… It definitely takes time. It’s been a year in the NYC-area and I’m not too much further along =/ But then again, my time to meet others has been limited. And I don’t get enough time with Jason as it is so we tend to hang out with other couples. I think it’s easier for a popular blogger like you though

By: Meg

Meg — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:47:55 +0000

You’re certainly not alone in your feelings! I’ve lived in the same place my entire life, have good friends who live all over the place and am currently single… so not only am I struggling to make even more friends who actually live within an hour of where I’m physically located but am also trying to find The One! And what a frustrating experience that has been of late. Oy. So think of poor little ol’ Meg next time you’re feeling down, LOL!

No, in all seriousness — you’re awesome and you will certainly meet new people where you are. Suggestions like book clubs are a great idea! I’ve been looking into taking classes for fun at a local community college, too. Not sure if anyone suggested that?

By: Mel

Mel — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 23:12:01 +0000

I know what you mean. My work life has just been uprooted (again!) so it screws up all the social life I have been working on building.

Square 1 – Party of 2.

By: Jennifer Lynn

Jennifer Lynn — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:33:19 +0000

Hello! First comment here. I agree with several of the other replies suggesting clubs, meet-ups, classes, etc….also it is usually a numbers game at first. Meet a lot of people and a few that mesh with your personality best will rise to the top of the pile. It will get better! Swear.

By: Akirah

Akirah — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 05:44:33 +0000

I think it takes time. In the meantime, can you try joining groups like a book club or going to a church or volunteering somewhere? I’ve met nice people doing these things. It’s hard to make friends…it’s sometimes harder than dating.

Also, I not encouraging this, but I met one of my good friends on Craigslist. I had advertised for a roommate and met a girl who seemed like a great match. Living together didn’t work out, but we still talk several times a week and she’s become a confidant in many ways. I’m not suggesting you go on Craigslist and look for friends, but I just want to give you hope that things like this can happen randomly and unexpectedly.

Good luck!

By: E.P.

E.P. — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:08:02 +0000

You will make new friends in time. Trust me. I had the same issues when I moved here, and it now makes me sad thinking about the people I will leave behind whenever I move away from here. (Fingers crossed. Hopefully soon.)

Major hugs for the meantime, though. If I lived in the Northeast, I’d hang out with you in a heartbeat!

By: Melanie

Melanie — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:36:29 +0000

I know this is something I would struggle with if I were in your shoes. I would be willing to bet you’ll meet people in your classes. Definitely pursue book clubs and things like that, especially if you can find free ones. Have you looked into seeing if there is a local running club or at least a running store that does group fun runs? I’ve met a ton of people through getting involved with stuff like that.

By: A Super Girl

A Super Girl — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:55:00 +0000

It just takes time. Be patient with it and it will come. And just keep putting yourself out there. I’m surrounded by acquaintances but feel like I don’t have “friends”. They take years to develop I think.

Good luck!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:50:09 +0000

It takes time but you can do it! You have Hubs and Pup and that’s a great start. It’ll happen