Why do you care?

by Heidi on September 26, 2008

You know what I’m tired of? People putting other people down because they don’t agree with their political beliefs. Guess what? Two of my best friends are Republicans, I’m a registerred Democrat who spent a year and a half volunteering and worshipping John Kerry. Do I care? No. Do I care that one of my bff’s dislikes feminism, and thinks that Bush is a God? No. She cares that what matters. I appreciate people who are involved, people who have opinions, even if I don’t agree with them, I value intelligent political conversation.

But guess what? I’m undecided. I don’t like Obama (i know *GASP*) but LOVE Biden, I appreciate and deeply admire John McCain’s experience, but aside from being a woman who can hunt a moose (like my Papa!) Sarah Palin’s politics kind of make me nervous.

I’m sick of people in the blogosphere, and the internets, and people in the real world getting up on their high horses because they think that X candidate is GOD and OMG IF YOU DON’T AGREE WITH ME YOU’RE CLEARLY AND IDIOT AND I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF EDUCATED! Seriously? What the HELL kind of attitude is that? Snarkiness to political comments that you don’t agree with are definitely uncalled for and unnecessary. Especially if you don’t know the person IRL.
Guess what people, I hate to break it to you…but….we live in A-M-E-R-I-C-A!!! It’s called Freedom of O-P-I-N-I-O-N. I have my opinions, you have yours. Let’s agree…to disagree. Really, it’s a simple solution.

I spent five years of my life worshipping and living by the principles of the Democratic Party, but as I’ve grown up, my values have changed. It was Winston Churchill who said “if you’re young and you’re not liberal, you have no heart. If you’re old and you’re not conservative, you have no head.” I agree with this statement. It was so very very easy to be idealistic when I was in college, I didn’t have bills to pay, debts burdening me. I didn’t think of buying a house, or the taxes I’d be paying. My priorities have changed a bit and while I will always be socially liberal, I can’t say that I’m financially as liberal as I used to be. If only because I had no value or appreciation of money back then.

My point is however, not to blab my own politics for the internets to judge and criticize (go head, I know you’re going to anyhow), but to say…”can’t we all just get along?” Many of the men I’ve dated, including my fiance, are/have been republicans (half of you are probably shitting your pants aren’t you?). The Ex? Was President of the College Republicans while I was president of the College Democrats – how’s that for different politics? He was a conservative from Ohio and I? A liberal from Vermont. No wonder we didn’t work out – nowadays, fiance and I are both New England Moderates – he a New England Republican which are a fast dying breed, and appreciates the true meaning of conservative. I? Well…I’m reevaluating my politics and plan on re-registerring as an Independent. Personally, I find it interesting and intriguing to pick people’s brains. Find out where they’re coming from. Share my own opinions. It’s fascinating that we live in a country where we can do this.

But for all you bloggers who think Obama is a fucking rock star? Please. Get off your fucking high horses and realize that there are people who may not think so, who may still be undecided and people who might think just the opposite with just as much passion as you. This does not make them wrong, stupid, or any other degrading name you can come up with for someone’s who viewpoints you don’t agree with. It just makes them informed and opinionated which in our society? Is never a bad thing. (FYI)

Let’s engage one another in conversation and stop throwing insults, let’s stop being douchebags because someone says something you don’t like. This goes for BOTH sides but in this neck of the woods? I hate to say it but the Obama-ites are much more guilty of it than the McCainsters (at least from what I’ve seen). So shut the fuck up and listen. Seriously. If you can’t listen and respectfully disagree then how much better are you than the person that you’re criticizing? Honestly?

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  • http://whatlizsaid.com What Liz Said

    You know I agree with you a million percent. You’re a bff and so is Stephanie and we all differ greatly in our opinions. Patrick? Democrat. Me? Republican. And just because I’m a Republican doesn’t mean I’m a rights hating war mongering Anti-Christ who thinks with my ass.

    I hate people. I really do. It makes me not want to talk politics ever, and that’s one of the things I really love to do.

  • http://www.dreweisenbeis.com Drew

    Very well said. It’s the “hate” flying around that I detest more than any disagreements I may have.

  • http://d-and-z.blogspot.com d.a.r.

    Amen.

    It really sickens me, and I am soooo over people thinking that Obama is Jesus Christ, Born Again. And that anyone who doesn’t think so obviously doesn’t care about America, our future, or anyone but themselves and rich people. Get. A. Grip.

  • http://mylifeasacrazycatlady.blogspot.com Ashley

    Agreed. 100%. I wish I copy copy everything you said for my own blog. =]

  • S

    YEAHH!!!! I feel the same way. We are all entitled to our opinion, and when liberal Democrats discriminate against conservatives, they are doing just what they say they DON’T!!! They say they tolerate everyone and accept everything, but that is SO not true!

    Just because someone screams louder doesn’t mean their opinion is worth more. I find that the McCainsters tend not to scream, plaster their cars with bumper stickers, or wear pins on their shirts.

  • http://notsojenny.wordpress.com notsojenny

    i agree.

    and i find it funny that some parties seem to be a little bit crazier than other parties when it comes to being open-minded and respectful. all i’m saying is they’re giving the rest of “their group” a bad wrap by showing up at the opposing party’s campaigns and being hauled away by security because they can’t control themselves.

    and what i’m sick of? people sending out company wide emails in opposition of a certain candidate. i get that 90% of where i work is voting for the same person, but whether i agree with them or not it’s WHOLLY inappropriate to send out one-sided things to all of your employees. i’m very mad at HR right now for allowing it.

  • http://notsojenny.wordpress.com notsojenny

    ps. the ladies of the view are on my last nerve. it’s 4 against 1. we get it. STFU already!!

  • http://whall.org/blog whall

    I think I just fell in love with you a little.

  • http://exeverything.blogspot.com ex

    Yikes! I hope you didn’t have me in mind when you were writing this…

  • http://exeverything.blogspot.com ex

    “i’m very mad at HR right now for allowing it.”

    You should file a complaint. What they’re doing? Is illegal and is work place harassment and is PROBABLY against your policies. Stand up. They have no right to do that to you.

  • http://ourlittleapartment.blogspot.com ashley.marie

    Well.

    I’m totally with you on being independent. I will never, ever, EVER care about a political party.

    I care about issues and candidates.

    The parties care about themselves and are divisive.

    Period.

    What worries me most is that I know people who I can’t even talk about politics because it boils my blood when they are so judgemental and spew out false facts.

    Being that my passionate issues are the environment and education – I’ve tended more towards voting Democratic. But I NEVER talk poorly about an entire political party.

    I HATE sweeping generalized statements. (Including assuming that enthusiastically supporting Obama means you think he’s Jesus Christ and a rock star! Haha)

  • http://elisabethwrites.blogspot.com Elisabeth

    Very well put. There’s so much nastiness in this campaign. I voted for Hillary Clinton in the primary, so every sling at her kind of felt like an attack on me. I do support Obama now, but I don’t carry that “OMG OBAMA” view. It took a lot for me to decide to support him. And I feel kind of bad for mean things I’ve said (trying to say in jest) about McCain/Palin (or their ads) on Twitter. So I hope I haven’t offended any republicans who follow me on Twitter. I’ve been meaning to cut down on political tweets. McCain and Palin are smart people. It does no good to our side to call the other side dumb.

    Excellent post!

  • http://themoderngal.blogspot.com The Modern Gal

    Sing it, sister. I’m in the exact same boat as you … completely undecided (and with a Republican boyfriend)

  • http://www.jenniferblack6305.blogspot.com/ Jennifer

    Very well said. I want to feed it right into my blog.

    They always say don’t talk politics at work. I try to abide by that, but yesterday a colleague stepped into my other colleagues office and blabbed about politics for half an hour. They were very loud and very disruptive. I wanted to go throw in my 2 cents, but I know I would be too fired up and say things I shouldn’t say.

    Please, let’s all engage in civil conversations with each other, and about the candidates. Let’s stop bullying the candidates because they are not perfect.

  • http://www.shinystakeout.com shiny

    Very nicely put. This blog was recommended to me by a Twitter buddy named @whall — someone who aligns himself a ways further to the right politically from me, but someone whom I feel is not quick to judge someone based on political affiliation.

    And we need more people like that out there. I, for one, don’t think I’ll ever really be able to get behind a presidential candidate aligned with one of the major political parties because I have trouble following a single party line. I know whom I’ll be voting for — but that’s less of a decision based on a presidential candidate I want in office and moreso a fear of what will happen if the other person gets in office. This isn’t the way it should be; the candidates I’ve felt I really could get behind haven’t had their campaigns get too far after the first few primaries. I feel that it’s a bit ingenuous to become a hardcore follower of a candidate pronnouncing him a savior simply because he happens to be the best person running at the time.

    I read that you live in Northern Virginia as I do. I see an interesting dichotomy as I live in Alexandria (much more diverse and liberal-leaning) while working in Loudoun County (much more conservative). I think the nature of our metropolitan area makes people feel the need to be more absolute and polarized with their views. And I see similar yet opposing passionate discussions at work and at home. People are adamant that they are right.

    I applaud people for having political opinions, but when it deteriorates into two people unilaterally screaming at each other without each other listening, it just becomes loud.

    But enough of my rambling. Great post.

  • http://www.ihatesomuch.com Maxie

    I’m all about having civil political debates with people (I have them with my boss EVERY DAY–then we laugh about it), but sometimes when people are uneducated and their arguments are completely false it’s really hard not to call them out on it.

  • http://stateiamin.com Erin

    Amen, Heidi.

  • http://www.missoj.com Claire

    Amen! I am a semi-conservative (more libertarian, really) floating in a sea of liberals at work, so at lunch I mostly just keep quiet and do my crossword puzzle.

    Maybe it’s just I’m paying attention more (this is the first presidential election I’m eligible to vote in), but the amount of nastiness and hypocrisy at all levels of this campaign is unlike anything I’ve ever seen. It’s horrifying, and it’s distracting everyone from the issues. I am really, truly unsure of who I’ll vote for, because I disagree with both of the candidates on so many issues. (But I am also pretty sure that the world will not end when one of them becomes president.)

    It really makes idealism–even optimism–hard. And yeah, I’m about to become an independent too. :) At least then I won’t have to cringe every time someone from my party does something stupid.

  • http://www.thebigpieceofcake.com/ Kate

    Well said. While I appreciate hearing different views, I don’t appreciate superior tone (even from people with whom I agree).

  • http://angelaacts.blogspot.com Angela

    I whole-heartedly agree. ~A~

  • http://gabrieladelworthclasses.blogspot.com Gabriela Delworth

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    ~ Gabriela ~

  • tipptalk

    I have no words. But I am standing and applauding you. Bravo!

  • http://smilingsally.blogspot.com Sally

    The Old Navy shoes are a bargain! Happy Pink Saturday!

  • Leslie

    Hmm…you really don’t care that your bff hates most minorities? I have no problem in differing beliefs and also have friends across party lines. I just have a problem with the whole “hating most minorities” things. I just couldn’t respect someone that is bigoted and if there is no respect, then there is no bff for me.

  • http://www.giovannadiaries.blogspot.com GiovannaDiaries

    I couldn’t have said it better myself.
    I’ve not THAT political and my few little comments have caused some nasty comments on my own blog. Yeah, my eyes cannot roll far back enough at people like that!

  • http://wwwpurocolor.blogspot.com Marina Capano

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    Marina

  • amandabtv

    If you could hear me, you would hear me clapping for you. This is fantastic. I think we might have exactly the same beliefs, as I’m pretty much a libertarian, in a way. (Socially liberal but fiscally conservative) I try to see where other people are coming from, and I think to label others as stupid or ignorant for beliefs they’ve thought about, researched, and truly believe in is completely ridiculous. (True ignorance is another story all together.) I’m lucky enough to have parents who like to debate the issues with me and help me see the other side of every argument, but this obviously is not the norm. thanks for being able to speak out about all this and try to keep some kind of open discussion going!! Keep it up :)

  • http://www.lovebostongirl.com Susie

    um, THANK YOU!!! I refuse to even talk politics with anyone because people who are supposed to be my friends talk to me like i’m a complete idiot because I’m not all “rah rah Obama.” And it makes me feel like our country will neverrr have true unity because people are so nasty and hateful because others don’t agree with them.

    Also, stay far far away from Tumblr if you feel like this. It seems like all that’s on Tumblr lately is cheers for Obama and seriously mean and nasty jeers to anyone who has another opinion. Sadness!!

  • magda

    Okay, YES. Yes yes and yes. I’m avoiding politics in any discussion, really, and especially in the blog world, for exactly these reasons. Choice is good, and discussion and differences are crucial. But not the way they’re so commonly trotted out these days. Your post is so perfect, and sums up so articulately exactly what I feel on the issue. I’ve seriously taken a cooling-off period from several blogs because I found their one-sided “my candidate or you’re an idiot!” posts just outright offensive. You, my dear, are a gem. Loved it.

  • http://trigirl82.blogspot.com trigirl82

    Fantastic post! I totally agree!

    My entire family bleeds Republican red (seriously, they’re hardcore), and I am leaning towards Obama. I don’t want to say that I’m disowned, but the lectures are ridiculous! And I happen to like McCain too! I recently spent a good 1/2 hour being lectured on how Government works by a close family member that basically implied that I was retarded, brainwashed, and don’t really know how the whole thing works… I graduated with a degree in Government, but unfortunately that knowledge completely goes out the window if my opinion does not go along with the rest of the crowd. Dumb..

    I enjoy debate, it’s the hysterical one sided lectures that I can’t stand. I’m a political junkie, but I find myself avoiding discussing politics with a lot of people because I know that what starts out as a discussion will turn into a one sided rant about how I’m clueless. Ugghh. I’ll be happy when this whole thing is over! I hate to say that, but it’s true!

    Again, great post!! :-)

  • http://brainyjane22.wordpress.com/ brandy

    I agree with a lot of what you (and Maxie) in comments said. That’s too bad that you’ve found so many blogs that have been so negative. The majority of the ones I’ve stumbled on have been pretty positive, (both for those who support Obama and those who support McCain). I’ve really appreciated the people who have taken the time to write political posts that have been well thought out and filled with facts (that link to actual sources). It’s been fun to learn about it all with others.

  • http://capitolhill20210.blogspot.com zipcode

    This is exactly why I started the goofy Spaghetti Cat For President Nonsense on my blog

    Amen

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