Comments on: On being a good houseguest

By: Caitlyn

Caitlyn — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 15:11:16 +0000

I don’t think this really counts, but a friend and I once went out for lunch and she brought up the fact that she wanted to stay over that night. She ended up staying for the entire weekend and, as she hadn’t even packed for it, borrowed my clothes, makeup, shampoo, etc. She was incredibly needy the entire weekend, and i finally had to tell her that I had “plans” on Monday evening so that she’d leave.
Oh! And once, back when I was in college, my boyfriend and I had plans for Saturday night. Unfortunately, on Friday night, a friend of mine got into a fight with his roommate and asked to sleep on my couch for the night. One night? Turned into a whole week. He turned my living room into his house, ate a ton of my food. I’d come home from classes at 1 and have him still asleep and snoring on my living room floor, where he’d pulled down all of the pillows and made a makeshift bed. I ended up calling his roommate and forcing him to make up with my friend.

By: Sara

Sara — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 17:56:25 +0000

D and I spent 7 out of 9 nights earlier this month on the couch due to his family being in town. I told him that the next place we live will have NO spare rooms and an outhouse. I will suffer through it if it means no one comes to visit. Hope you have recovered.

By: Z

Sun, 24 Aug 2008 22:14:17 +0000

Ugh… Having houseguests of any variety is stressful, but ones that you feel are not appreciative enough of all you are doing? AWFUL.

I know – family and all of that – but still. A simple thank you would have gone a long way in this case, I imagine… Glad it’s done for you!!!

By: brandilicious

brandilicious — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 20:54:05 +0000

I’m sorry that your sister and her boyfriend weren’t better houseguests. It’s unfortunate when people don’t get common courtesy.

We haven’t had too many houseguests, but one night after a party in our old apartment, my friend got really drunk (which is a common occurence for this friend) and ended up sleeping with a friend of my husband’s in my office. Yes, my office – a room which there is no bed. What’s worse is she woke up my husband in the middle of the night for a condom (hey – at least they were safe).

I had to throw out a body pillow. And then I had to hear for weeks later if I thought he was going to call her and then I got caught in the middle.

He never dated her after that and this time next year she will be my sister-in-law. Yup, somehow she ended up with my husbands brother.

(We don’t really talk which is sad but she’s done so many horrid things to me in the past few years that I’m over her – including turning my MiL against me but that’s a story for another day).

By: southernofficechairs

southernofficechairs — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 19:07:10 +0000

Shoot…I hit enter before I finished my post….I wanted to also say that actually the situation with your sister could be worse…..so, just continue to love her and maybe she’ll eventually “grow up” (or at least maybe read your blog and wake up!)
p.s. I’ve enjoyed your blog. I’ve read a few posts and they are very entertaining. Good work!
SOC

By: southernofficechairs

southernofficechairs — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 19:04:14 +0000

I’m with “notsojenny” on this one. If I’m a guest at someone’s house (however, I actually prefer a hotel so as to not impose) I delight in leaving little “gifts” that they will find later.
My two boys visit often (one married so with a wife attached) and they must’ve been raised well (big grin) because they are very considerate when they are here. I bet they know that I can still put them over my knee and spank their behinds if they didn’t…..hehehe

By: kieremj

kieremj — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 10:29:09 +0000

Wow… That sounds insanely difficult to deal with!

I haven’t really had anyone stay over for longer than a night, but when ever I do they’ve always been quite helpful in their own ways. One likes to make breakfast for everyone, the others usually just help clean up the house from the previous night.

Me and my fiance stay for a few months at a time at his mother’s place, since she lives in a different country to us and all. I make sure I give as much money as I can afford to help for groceries and I do the dishes every night for her when I’m there. She always thanked me for that.

By: raincoaster

raincoaster — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 09:35:22 +0000

It was Plautus who first said that thing about guests and fish. Some things are eternal.

Next time, only cook things you know they won’t like and take them places they’ll hate: they’ll leave a lot faster!

By: alegna75

alegna75 — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 02:24:35 +0000

My worst houseguests were my parents and sister one thanksgiving. Not only did i cook dinner completely wrong, my sister had the audacity to tell me I shouldn’t have attended to my children first and grab food before it was gone (she ate almost all the rolls before we even sat down). I haven’t invited them back since (for other reasons, like I feel like I was switched at birth and haven’t met my real family).

One thing I have to say is, always be careful planning tours and nights out for your guests unless you know that they will really like the plans. My sis and I are 6 years apart (I am older) and her idea of a fun night is being drunk and hanging out in strip clubs til 4 am. I like a quiet night, maybe ONE drink, and experiencing something new. She got mad at me recently cause I didn’t enjoy the time out. I couldn’t possibly fake enjoying a gay man jiggling his rear in my face (no offense to homosexuals but if a man is going to shake his rear in my face, he has to be somewhat attainable!).

By: Lacey Bean

Lacey Bean — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 00:42:48 +0000

Man that sucks! I would expect that maybe if you had a younger sister, but certainly not from an older one!!

I had a friend that stayed over awhile ago, and she would leave her garbage all over the place! It was gross.