Comments on: Bidding the Past Adieu

By: notsojenny

notsojenny — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 20:20:11 +0000

when i moved this last time i dumped the box of stuff from the last relationship. as much as i love to hold onto things, i don’t need to hold onto love that someone else had for me a long time ago. when i just went home i found 2 boxes, each for a different “love of my life”. i read through some of the items for kicks and then quickly tossed them. again, no need to have those things around. i think it’s great to move on.
i’ll always have the memories and learnings from those relationships and that’s necessary.

By: T

Sun, 22 Jun 2008 21:41:05 +0000

I’m coming to DC soon maybe you can read your grocery list to me while I am there. And then we can spend hours treating our current The Fiance’s like shit by stewing over The Ex’s, and then we can look at the ugliest fatty slut girl dresses and decide which haircut is the most suitably boring to go with them.

By: magda

magda — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 01:42:45 +0000

I think you’re making really good choices, Heidi. I’ve been trying to let go of certain “key” exes, even if just mentally, and it really is worth it. You’re Fiance’s now … for real … so it makes sense to translate that choice into your other past relationships. It’s hard, but you’ll be glad later.

Ah, shopping. I think I’ve bought like three dresses in the last week. The weather? The sales? Who knows. More likely, I have a problem. Hang in there!

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 04:12:27 +0000

I love ALL of forever 21′s dresses too!
So cute..!

By: littlespoon

littlespoon — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 00:05:13 +0000

Good for you! That’s really awesome and very mature of you. And it’s definitely something that needs to be done when you find the one

By: Playful Professional

Playful Professional — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 22:12:53 +0000

I had the same problem with the guy I dated right before my husband. I honestly thought somehow things were going to work out even though it wasn’t happening. He left for Alaska the summer we broke up. Somehow he got wind (we didn’t talk while he was gone) that I’d gotten engaged and called and left me a voicemail that just said, “You are engaged?!?!” in one of those flabbergasted voices. I saw him once or twice when he got back in town and every time I saw his name on my phone I was tempted to text him (all the way until the wedding actually). I finally got up the nerve and deleted him altogether. I still think about him every once in a while when certain songs come on but it’ so much easier with him gone completely. BTW, somehow got an ATL family and friends 30% off coupon last week so I of course had to buy all kind of stuff. They were giving out the $25/50 coupons so now I have three that I of course have to spend. My new favorite mall is Landmark because they have an ATL that nobody goes to!! It’s great. Have a great weekend.

By: jenniferalaine

jenniferalaine — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 20:18:12 +0000

I agree with you wholeheartedly. It’s an entirely different experience moving on from someone you dated in high school to someone you considered marrying. Although I’m nowhere near being engaged or getting married (instead I’m living vicariously through you!) some have been harder than others and some relationships have maintained a friendship while others haven’t. As I get older and my relationships get more serious, I find that it’s so much harder to keep those ones close. My high school ex and I still communicate, though infrequently, but the most recent one – not a chance. The thought that at my age, he could be “The One” makes the relationship, and therefore the breakup, more intense.

Anyway (after that essay), it sounds like you’re happy with everything and I’m impressed with your insight and clarity in dealing with The Ex. I’m so excited for your engagement and can’t wait to hear more about the wedding plans!

By: Brandilicious

Brandilicious — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 20:07:44 +0000

It’s always wonderfully powerful the day that you know you can move past things – delete things, and know you are moving in a much happier direction.

Have a fun weekend – you’ll have to show us all your shopping loot on Monday!