So thanks to you all, I don’t feel so bad.
Boyfriend emailed her last night telling her, he’d “let her know what he decides” which makes sense. Hell, keep them waiting as looonnnggg as you want.
I’m feeling spiteful, can you tell?
Apparently he emailed her again asking if the circumstances would be different if we were engaged or something to that extent since apparently it might be happening sooner than I thought (maybe? I have a guess but I could be wrong…) He said he’ll let me know what she says.
Things of note that I may not have clearly stated:
1. I don’t know if it said “and guest” on the envelope *inner?* i don’t think it did on the outside one. Therefore, boyfriend realizes that he should have asked to clarify, regardless, I’m not some random two bit whore he picked up on K Street.
2. The tickets – are essentially non refundable. We will still be going up. Boyfriend wants to go to the wedding (don’t ask why) if only for the “free meal.” Silly, I know. $430 that could have gone toward our own hopefully, soon to be pending nuptials down the drain. More than that if you want to include the cost of dog care.
3. I’m not as offended about not being invited. I mean I still am but it’s not that big of a deal…more the way it was handled. But at the same time, it was our mistake not to read the envelope. She knows we’re together. That we live together. Why wouldn’t we both be invited?
4. the part that most gets me is that if you wanted it to be engaged/married couples only, why didn’t you SPECIFY? And/or not leave two spaces on the RSVP card? And why not send a short note shortly after the RSVP’s are sent out to those pals of yours stating fyi, you’re going to get this soon, but just so you know, you’re not invited with a guest.
Update…[as of 4pm...]
Boyfriend: FYI [friend/bride] has apologized. and you are invited to the wedding.
me:i still don’t want to go
Boyfriend: “i feel like an asshole for having to bring it up in the first pl / but my parents have their rule / just make sure you propose b4 the wedding / or pretend u have” and it gives us a great story “well we got engaged so I could attend a friend’s wedding” that’s hilarious. come on it’s up there with “well a friend of ours set us up on a blind date” “well, long story short, let’s pretend this confusion never happened / and get psyched for a great time / i am really looking forward to seeing you both and having you there / BOTH of you” and I’m totally giving them a waffle maker. I want to make it my ‘go to’ wedding gift. every wedding, a waffle maker. can we give [your friends] one?
I still don’t think she even deserves a gift. I mean seriously? It’s your wedding. I don’t care if mommy and daddy are paying for it. Even if my dad pays for it I’m not going to let him dictate who i can and can not invite. Have a spine. Jebus.
Playing nice to save face. Pshhhh.
Anyhow, looks like we’ll both be going anyhow (much to my dismay since before he even bought the tickets I didn’t want to go since him nor I will know ANYONE there.) since the tickets are bought. Thankfully, it’s a daytime wedding and hopefully we’ll be able to sneak out of the luncheon/reception rather early.
